Sunday, January 23, 2011

Something or Someone I Miss

(Un)Happy Anniversary!
So, on the 5th Anniversary of Monica’s suicide it seems like a no brainer that I would write about her.  However, nothing with me is ever simple so here is the curve ball.  I don’t miss her.
Am I a monster for feeling this way?  For putting it out there in the Ethernet for the entire world to ignore?  I hope not.  I do still mourn her.  I still feel sadness about not only her death at such a young age.  But also for the pain she endured throughout her life.
Before I met Monica and for the brief time we were together I made some poor life decisions.  As a couple we were a disaster.  I was a mess, she was a mess.  If anyone was going to save her from her path of self destruction it sure wasn’t me.  I still feel guilt over that but the guilt has abated quite a bit.  I can’t say I wish I had never met her because she changed my life.  I couldn’t save her but I guess you can say she helped save me.
Maybe I should have changed this post to someone I’m grateful for.  I can’t change the fact that Monica came into my life.  But I can be grateful for it.  I’m grateful that she decided not to take me with her before turning that gun on herself.  I’m grateful for the path that I am now on.  It took a violent shove but at least now I know I’m headed in the right direction.

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